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Quote of the Month: "In our sleep, pain which
cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart until, in our own
despair, against
our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God." (Aeschylus -
quoted
by Robert Kennedy when Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated, April
4,
1968.)
Next, a true short story about my dad that I
would
like to share with you. We grew up during, what people call now, the
bad
times - but to us, they were the good times. It is a story of one man
whose
life was woven together with countless others to form that upright,
noble fiber of our country.
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My Pa
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His name was Pa
Raidy. He was a dairy farmer; born, raised and died in Wisconsin. His
body
lies on the shores of Lake Butte des Morts where he loved to fish. He
went
to school to the third grade and then worked on his parents' farm,
became
a blacksmith, married and then bought a farm of his own.
The farm was a small farm - eighty acres to be
exact
- about fifty acres tillable; the rest woods, wild hazelnuts, wild
raspberries
and roughage for the herd of cows which needed milking twice a day.
Pheasants
graced the fields in the fall of the year.
He was Pa because he was my pa. I write all of
this
as a prelude to what I really want to write.
My pa was part of the fiber that made America
become
great. It was not the Roosevelts, the Hoovers, the Rockefellers - the
rich
and famous. It was the hard working farmers and factory workers, truck
drivers
who were the life blood flowing through the living entity called
America.
Although he probably did not know or care who was
the
"father of our country", or about the Constitution - which, by the way
has
never done anyone one hill of beans anyway - he knew what was right and
what
was wrong. He knew what it was to save enough money to buy a farm, work
the
soil and raise a family of six on the money he got from selling milk
and
raising and preserving fruits and vegetables for the winter.
What he learned, the soil taught him. He was a
machinist,
a veterinarian, a horticulturist, a weather forecaster, a carpenter. He
had
what all the schooling cannot teach one.
He had common sense, which all animals are born
with,
man being the only animal who educates it away.
Pa had little money but generously gave what he
had.
Money never seemed to be a problem with him. Nor was the lack of it.
One
day as I remember it I needed money for school. When I asked him, he
put
his big rough hand into his pocket and brought out all he had and said,
"Take
what you need."
My pa never had smooth hands or clean
fingernails. His hands were always rough, strong and tender.
Never once did he need to
use them to spank me for I had too much respect for him and he made so
few
laws there were none to break. It seemed love and caring for one
another
were enough to carry us from day to day through the storms of life.
When I was little I used to sit on Pa's foot as he
crossed
his knees and I would go pony riding. I sat on his lap until I got too
big
for him to hold me. I think I was his favorite but I guess my sisters
and brother thought the same. He cut our hair, soled our shoes. On cold
winter
nights we six would gather around the table and play our favorite card
game
called "Smear". How proud he would be if we could outsmart him or play
just
the right card to win the game.
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Pa
was respected in the community.
He served on the school board. He had a huge threshing machine which he
took
from farm to farm at harvest time and threshed the grain. He owned a
huge
cattle truck which served the farming community. About once a month he
would
load the truck with cattle or pigs or sheep and take them to the
Milwaukee
stock yards. Several times in my life I had the good fortune to go
along
with him. We would rumble along the highway the cows bellowing and the
sheep
bleating. The time flew. The 100 miles there did not seem far. About
1/2
mile from the yards the odor of cattle, blood and guts would hit the
nostrils,
and if your stomach was finicky you were in trouble. However, when my
pa
would finish unloading we would go into the cafeteria and get the best
food,
including blueberry pie and ice cream. By that time our smeller was
used
to the odor of the cattle and the beef sandwiches were just the best
ever.
After this wonderful excursion I would cuddle up next to him and sleep
all
the way home.Around Thanksgiving, with the first snowfall, Pa
and
his hunting buddies would head north to hunt deer. Whether he shot one
did
not matter. He loved to hunt - had a rifle and a double barreled shot
gun.
No gun control in those days.
The government in our small Wisconsin township was
a false, almost unknown entity. There was a big-shot sheriff who had a
government car and
everyone looked upon him with disdain as a lazy good-for-nothing
intruder,
the last one we would think of calling if there were a problem to solve.
The Depression came and went and our life was no
different than it
was before the Depression as we lived in a depression. When the
government tried to bribe my pa into taking subsidies for not producing
milk, he just
dumped it, ashamed that we would even think of accepting welfare of any
kind
and have someone else have to work to pay for our lack of wealth.
Sometimes I wonder what my pa would do if any
government inspector would have intruded on his farm as the government
inspectors so boldly walk
into our places of business today. I saw one time my gentle pa
take
a pitchfork after an intruder who misbehaved on his property. I
think
he would do the same today to any inspector if he were to intrude into
his
way of life and threaten his livelihood with codes, fees and excess
taxes.
My pa, when he saw the corruption in the Catholic
church, he left it and never set foot in it again nor had any of his
family attend it. On his death bed I asked, "Pa, do you want to see a
priest?" He said, in his Irish, German accent, "Keep dem devils
with the black robes away from
me." He entrusted his soul to the One who used him to help forge the
country
called America. He died as righteous as he lived.
Rare today is the likes of him and I do miss this
great simple man
called "my pa".
Marie Kolasinski
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